Pursuing and Discovering Purpose

CeCeWinans_May04    The treasures of purpose are found in the chest of originality. It is  the uniqueness in each of us that is most needed by others. Finding or creating a means through which that difference can be lovingly expressed is a critical pursuit. We should let no one or nothing deter us from the path to actualization.

Divinely structured within the core of each person is a unique composition. Biologically, this substance causes a distinction in every human fingerprint. Spiritually, it stamps a purpose in the heart of each individual to be discovered and lived. When purpose has not been realized, frustration, confusion and a host of other negatives harbor in the soul. As best-selling author Dr. Myles Munroe writes in his book, In Pursuit of Purpose, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable.” So, when we look around and see unhappiness and emptiness in talented and gifted people, it is because they do not know their purpose or they know it but are not living it. Usually adversities and circumstances are a set-up and a part of the process to purpose and meaning.  Recently I watched an interview of the 1984 Olympic ski champion and paraplegic Bonnie St. John on “Life Today” hosted by James and Betty Robison.  Interestingly, St. John, who had her leg amputated at age five, was born into a poor family, and sexually abused from age two to seven.  Even with all of that weighing against her, her mother lovingly insisted on excellence and no excuses. She went on to become a ski champion, a wonderful mother, author and motivational speaker. Bonnie shared her story to help others overcome insurmountable odds. She talked about how many times she fell and suffered trying to learn how to ski with one leg but noted the advantage she had over other skiers. Bonnie said she didn’t have to worry about her skis crossing because she only had one. Stories like this assure us that we can prevail and be triumphant even when we have a disadvantage. “A setback is just a setup for a comeback,” says award-winning motivational speaker and author Willie Jolley. So many times what is considered a severely negative situation is really an opportunity waiting to be acted upon. But the outcome depends greatly on attitude and the decision of refusing to be defeated.  If handled wisely, the problems we face provide the best clues to finding purpose and fulfillment. “May He [God] grant you according to your heart’s desire and fulfill all your purpose.” – Psalm 20:4

 

Cultivating Meaningful Relationships

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Life is based on relationships. Our main purpose for existing is to relate lovingly and uniquely to our Creator and to each other. And here is the greatest challenge and test — to love the Lord your God with all our heart, soul, mind and strength; and to love your neighbor as yourself. Anything of significant purpose that one does is linked to some kind of meaningful relationship. This is why our lives are so impacted by others, especially parents, family, teachers, friends and peers. The need to love and be loved is an innate longing within that produces many actions and reactions, positive and negative, towards self and others.

Learning the art of good relations can be a lifetime quest. It requires a willingness to give and to forgive continually, and this can cause many to lose heart and give up on people who do not have the wisdom or strength to reciprocate such love. This type of discouragement and disappointment causes divorces, family breakups, and terminated friendships. Yet, when we watch the effective workings of good relationships, love, respect and trust for oneself and others from each person comprises the premise on which they are built. Therefore, each one is responsible for doing his/her part.

In this life, one has to pay a great price for evading and abusing relationships for which he/she has been entrusted. Fathers and mothers cannot abandon or abuse children and escape the penalty of their unwise choices. Nor can a husband or wife mistreat his/her mate and leap into another marriage peacefully blessed without settling all unfinished business of the prior relationship. If he/she does not deal honestly with personal faults and character flaws, that baggage is carried into the next relationship and can evolve into a depleting, viscous cycle.

Unhealthy cycles can be broken through honesty, prayer, and a commitment to change personally, for we cannot change others. Self-improvement means relationship enhancement. Since we have attracted people who have many of our own traits or the opposite but “packaged” differently, it is smart to look at them less critically and more inquisitively. One valid question to ask is, “Why did I attract this person into my life?” The answers discovered can be amazing. So, let’s keep an open mind and a positive attitude for learning all we can.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion.” – Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NKJV

Ella Coleman